So, I have some thoughts about body confidence and I thought I’d share them here. Maybe they are helpful to someone else, or maybe it’ll just be nice for me to back them up somewhere that isn’t my own head.
My first thought is that, the best thing we can do for other people’s body confidence is lead by example! I remember as a little girl, my mum would always tell me I was beautiful and then turn around and look in the mirror and moan about this or that on her own body. To me my mum was beautiful. So if I thought she was beautiful, but (according to her) there were problems with her body, then even though she said I was beautiful that didn’t mean there weren’t problems with my own body. Couple this with media portrayals and peer pressure and I have certainly struggled with loving my body in the past. I love my body now and realise that the flaws I see as massive are often so tiny or insignificant that no-one else would really notice them.
Besides, once we learn to love ourselves we tend to be better at looking after ourselves. Think about it. If you look at your body and think it is a pile of worthless trash then that is how you will treat it. If you look at your body and see something you like, if you feel happy, then you will look after it. So feeling comfortable or happy, accepting that your body is how it is and learning to love it can be the first step to changing it by encouraging better habits. If you don;t want to change it then you don;t have to, but you will likely still be healthier because you will treat it better (I’m not just talking about food and exercise, when I feel good about my body I tend to make sure I moisturise and generally look after my whole body).
Oh, and the biggest thing is of course to not care about other people’s bodies. Seriously, it doesn’t affect you, what someone else looks like. Of course if you have a loved one and you are worried about their health you should have a gentle conversation – but even still don’t push them and don’t try to address it by making little comments or jokes. That won’t be helpful and could make them feel more insecure. Some people are naturally really thin, some people are bigger but as long as they are happy and relatively healthy it doesn’t matter. Nothing is nicer on a person than confidence, it’s attractive not only in a sexual way but in a generic way – you want to be around that person whether it is for business, social or romantic reasons.
So those are a few thought I have. As I said it has taken me years to be comfortable with my body and I still have bad days where I think I’m a hideous ogre monster woman, but even that is fine. Just recognise an off day as an off say and prepare to feel better the next day.
Remember that you are awesome, because you are you and there is only one of you in the entire world!