Body Confidence

So, I have some thoughts about body confidence and I thought I’d share them here. Maybe they are helpful to someone else, or maybe it’ll just be nice for me to back them up somewhere that isn’t my own head.

My first thought is that, the best thing we can do for other people’s body confidence is lead by example! I remember as a little girl, my mum would always tell me I was beautiful and then turn around and look in the mirror and moan about this or that on her own body. To me my mum was beautiful. So if I thought she was beautiful, but (according to her) there were problems with her body, then even though she said I was beautiful that didn’t mean there weren’t problems with my own body. Couple this with media portrayals and peer pressure and I have certainly struggled with loving my body in the past. I love my body now and realise that the flaws I see as massive are often so tiny or insignificant that no-one else would really notice them.

Besides, once we learn to love ourselves we tend to be better at looking after ourselves. Think about it. If you look at your body and think it is a pile of worthless trash then that is how you will treat it. If you look at your body and see something you like, if you feel happy, then you will look after it. So feeling comfortable or happy, accepting that your body is how it is and learning to love it can be the first step to changing it by encouraging better habits. If you don;t want to change it then you don;t have to, but you will likely still be healthier because you will treat it better (I’m not just talking about food and exercise, when I feel good about my body I tend to make sure I moisturise and generally look after my whole body).

Oh, and the biggest thing is of course to not care about other people’s bodies. Seriously, it doesn’t affect you, what someone else looks like. Of course if you have a loved one and you are worried about their health you should have a gentle conversation – but even still don’t push them and don’t try to address it by making little comments or jokes. That won’t be helpful and could make them feel more insecure. Some people are naturally really thin, some people are bigger but as long as they are happy and relatively healthy it doesn’t matter. Nothing is nicer on a person than confidence, it’s attractive not only in a sexual way but in a generic way – you want to be around that person whether it is for business, social or romantic reasons.

So those are a few thought I have. As I said it has taken me years to be comfortable with my body and I still have bad days where I think I’m a hideous ogre monster woman, but even that is fine. Just recognise an off day as an off say and prepare to feel better the next day.

Remember that you are awesome, because you are you and there is only one of you in the entire world!

 

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The secret to eyeliner

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By no means am I a beauty expert. Not even in my most far fetched dreams would this be true. However, I do wear makeup and I think I manage to do so without looking ridiculous. In fact, as bizarre as this is to me, people have complimented me on my makeup before, especially my eyeliner. I like to go with a slightly rockabilly style and have black eyeliner on my upper lid with a little flick or wing.

Some people have asked me how I am able to do it, and so I thought I’d just write about my two biggest eyeliner secrets.

#1 Practice makes better

It might not make you perfect, but practice will certainly make you better. It has taken many years of practising to get down the technique I use today for my eyeliner. To make my hand steadier and understand how to get a good flow takes repetition. It might be best to practice a few times when you don’t have much on that day, or when you are staying in, so you can get a feel for how to do it properly before you have a big night out. Having said this it is still a mysterious beast and I never seem to be able to do it exactly the same every time.  Maybe this is my lack of expertise but if you are a regular Jane like me, then don’t worry it you still have off days (even after years of experience).

# 2 Sometimes you have to roll with it

Be prepared to abandon your plans. Thought you’d do a nice thin line today? Well your hand just wobbled a little and now you will have to do a thicker line to cover it up. Over time you learn that sometimes it is easier and quicker to go bigger than to try and start again or fix the problem (smudging etc). You can use a cotton bud with a little coconut oil on it to try and fix little mistakes, but generally I tend to just go bigger to cover up. Which has meant going to work with slightly more glam heavy eyeliner than intended, but hey everyone just thinks I’m fabulous now!

Those are my top two tips for eyeliner and I hope they are helpful. Basically just grab a liquid or gel liner and go for it.

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P.S I use the GOSH Xtreme Liquid Gel Eye Liner Black but have used gel and felt style liners in the past. I really like this one though and find it has good staying power. Plus it’s cruelty free and vegan!

 

Tis the season…

For beautiful nails!

There are two nail products that I am really loving at the moment and I wanted to share them both with you.

I have a troubled history with my nails, as I have previously been a finger nail biter. It took a loooong time for me to stop, and now I have I am working to make my nails healthier and stronger. For this reason I don’t often like to wear nail polish as, although it helps stop me biting my nails (and looks pretty) it can often dry them out, especially if you forget to put on an undercoat because your in a rush. Sometimes you just don’t have time for 4 coats of nail polish (undercoat, 2 coats of colour and a top coat). All of the above is why I am SO super excited and in love with a new nail polish from Barry M – Coconut Infusion!

Unlike other nail polishes Barry M Coconut Infusion has coconut oil in it, which helps nourish and strengthen your nails whilst you wear it. They recommend not using an undercoat, as this will prevent the coconut oil goodness getting into your nail. So not only doe sit do good it is also easier to apply – that’s what I call a win win. As if this wasn’t enough I have also found it is super tough wearing! Last weekend I was doing lots of decorating (sanding, painting etc) and was prepared for my nail polish to be trashed by Sunday night. But there were only a couple of slight chips, which could be easily rectified so that on Monday it didn’t look like I’d lifted a finger all weekend!

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(https://www.barrym.com/product/Coconut-Infusion)

This actually brings me on nicely to the next nail product I want to rave about, GOSH Bain Dissolver nail polish remover. As pretty as nail polish can look, when it starts to chip and you realise you should probably take it off because you are starting to look too scruffy it can be a real pain in the bum. Have to use wipes or pads to scrub it all off can take a while and by the time you are done sometimes you can’t be bothered or don;t have the time to apply a fresh polish. That is why I am swooning for this new nail polish remover. You simply pop your finger in and pull it out and tah dah! No more nail polish. I had some fingers that required 2 dips but it is still so much cleaner, quicker and easier than how I’d done this task in the past. It also makes single nail touch ups easier, and you can remove polish from one nail without risking spilling/ rubbing it on any others. I believe Superdrug have an own brand version of this as well, which might be slightly cheaper, but I haven’t tried that yet.

(http://www.superdrug.com/GOSH/GOSH-Dip-In-Nail-Polish-Remover/p/404401)

Oh and both these products are cruelty free and vegan. I’m not sponsored by anyone, I just really like them and wanted to share them with you 🙂

Safe to say my nails are going to be looking much more colourful this summer!

 

 

 

 

I’m not cool, I’m me.

There is no way of writing this without sounding like a douche, so I’m just gunna write it.

People sometimes call me ‘cool’.

Whenever this happens it kinda weirds me out, because to me, I’m not cool I’m just….me.

In my head I’m still the girl who had to pretend she didn’t like Barbie or My Little Pony anymore because her friends didn’t, even though she still played with them by herself.

I’m still the teenager who ate lunch alone and wrote poetry locked in a toilet cubicle because no one wanted to hang out with me.

I’m still the uni student who ate Pickled Onion Monster Much for dinner, even though I hate them, because they were the only thing in my halls room and I was too anxious to leave it.

I’m not cool, I’m a socially awkward loser who society has made it clear doesn’t fit in.

So when people call me cool. I find it kinda weird.

Glasses

I wear glasses. I’ve needed them for the past 21 years, although have only really started wearing them properly in the last 5 or 6 years. By properly here I mean full time.

When I first got glasses I was 6 years old, and I was pretty good at wearing them at school. Then I decided I didn’t want to wear glasses because I didn’t look as pretty (a ridiculous sentiment I now realise). When I moved into my teenage years I did wear my glasses occasionally (my vision was getting worse and I was getting more headaches for not wearing them), but I didn’t really like any of the styles I could get from the high street. I wanted Kurt Cobain’s glasses. Well, I don’t know if they were glasses he wore often, but I remember seeing him wearing them in a picture and thinking, ‘Yes!!! Those are the kind of glasses I want!’ Alas, I could not find them and I was stuck in narrower frames.

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I went to uni, where I soon discovered I didn’t really have a choice but to wear my glasses. I was getting worse headaches and my vision was getting worse. It still isn’t awful, I can manage about 15 minutes glasses free in the morning before I get a headache, and even without my glasses I can still see, everything is just more like an original version of a 80’s TV show, just a little soft around the edge, and as for reading, forget it, no chance of me doing that without glasses! So I embraced wearing my glasses. I had ones with thick plastic frames, they were still narrow but it was a compromise. Naturally, towards the end of my teens I started feeling more confident in myself as well, and embracing ‘me’ more so it all kind of fell together. I started wearing glasses full time (not for showering or sleeping).

Then this wonderful thing happened to me, I discovered my independence! It didn’t happen at uni, well it was technically in a uni, but it was when I was working there after graduating. Financial independence really was the next step in me becoming more of my own person, and so I started to explore more of my own ways of doing things – whereas before I had just done things the way my parents had e.g. going to high street opticians and buying their expensive glasses. At that time a colleague was getting new glasses and brought in his free trial from Glasses Direct. This got me thinking, why haven’t I tried a service like this? So I started to investigate. Long story short, I’m now in love!

For the past 4 years I have gotten my glasses online from Glasses Direct and I love it. The free home-trial is great, as you can ask loads of different people and take selfies without feeling weird. After all when picking a set of frames you need to make sure they are Instagram worthy. It also means you can take a longer time to survey friends and relatives opinions (and then completely ignore them and get the ones you wanted any ways because it’s about pleasing yourself and not other people, after all it’s your face!)

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That’s me trying out sunglasses last year (you can get the lenses tinted when you buy them). Spoiler I went for number 1.

The ordering process is then also super simple, just get a copy of your prescription from your optician (note, they should give you a copy of this when you get an eye test done any way, so make sure you have it). Enter the prescription when prompted, choose lenses coating options (all much cheaper than I came across on the high street, we’re talking anti-scratch and anti-reflect which I cannot cope without now days). As I mentioned above you can then add a tint to the lenses to make them sunglasses. Place the order and then wait a couple days, to a couple weeks, and your glasses come in the post.

If you have plastic frames and you need to adjust the arms (make them shorter for example) this can easily be done with a hair-dryer and some gentle bending. I’ve done it successfully before, and it wasn’t as scary as I thought it would be. Maybe I’ll make a video on how to do it at some point. In the meantime they do have advice on their website on doing all sorts of glasses adjustments.

This isn’t an advert for Glasses Direct by the way, I mean I guess it kind of is but they aren’t paying me. I wish they were. Hello Glasses Direct, if you need an advocate I am all in!

Last thing, I do have a code available as part of their ‘recommend a friend’ scheme. This is something that is open to all users. Basically if you use this link to order your first pair of glasses with them you get £30 off and I get a £15 Amazon voucher. There are certain Ts&Cs, for example the glasses have to be over £55 and not part of the boutique range, but check it out and see if there is anything you like!

https://glassesdirect.mention-me.com/m/ol/aap-domi-sinclair

 

 

 

Coconut oil as make-up remover

Anyone who knows me can testify that I wear a lot of make-up, in particular dark eye liner. I just love it.

[Insert selfie collage as evidence.]

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This looks great, but come bedtime it can be a real pain in the bum to get off. For many years I struggled with make-up wipes, rubbing my eyes red raw to get it all off and with my skin often stinging afterwards, due to the shear elbow grease that has been put into getting make-up off such a delicate area of skin. I didn’t feel this was very good for my long term eye or skin health, and longed for another answer, yet felt unsure of where to look as everything else I’d tried had failed and this just seemed the easiest solution.

Thankfully I found the answer, very much by accident, in a video posted to YouTube by Kiera Rose (who is a great YouTuber I recommend you check her out). She happened to mention that she uses coconut oil to remove make-up and I thought this sounded interesting. After doing some research of my own, I found that coconut oil does indeed seems to be one of these miracle natural products that has a 101 different uses, with make-up removal being among them.

It is also super simple to use and easy to get your hands on. You can find it in any mainstream supermarket, often with the cooking oils, although I am starting to notice it more in beauty aisles as well. Just a note, if you are using pure coconut oil it doesn’t matter which aisle you buy it from, so just get whichever one is cheapest/ looks nicest to you.

When you have your coconut oil I find it helpful to decant it into a smaller tub, just so it is easier to scoop up.

When you want to use it simply scoop a small amount on your fingers and rub them together a little to melt it a bit. Then rub it in a circular motion over your closed eyes, eyebrows, lips, wherever you have stubborn make-up you want to remove. You can then simply wipe it off with a cotton pad or similar, however once I have my face all oiled up I like to wash it off with soap and water. I then simply pat it dry with a towel and have beautiful make-up free skin 🙂

WARNING, this process will make you look like a panda temporarily.

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Call that short hair!

This has really been bugging me recently, and as someone who ACTUALLY has short hair I feel like I need to speak up. So here goes….

Dear women of the internet and beyond,

If you have hair which is around your shoulders, you do not have short hair! Please stop labelling videos and articles, ‘Cool short hair styles’ or ‘How to style short hair’ when in fact you are talking about what can only accurately be described as medium or long hair. It is very misleading to those of us who actually do have short hair.

This is how I break-down hair lengths for those of you who aren’t sure, and I honestly thought this was widely accepted as fact (until this recent flurry of mislabelled short hair content).

Short hair – bulk of your hair is above your chin

Example (current/ recent me):

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Mid (or medium length) hair – hair is between your chin and shoulders (note this does, for me at least, include shoulder length hair)

Example (me from about 3-4 years ago):

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Long hair – your hair (or at least most of it) goes beyond your shoulders

Example (me from a long time ago):

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Recently people seem to have abandoned the idea of mid length hair and boiled it down to long or short, which is simply not useful or representative! Of course there are nuances and lets not even go into super short hair (which is mostly shorter than ear length, I’m talking pixie cut or shaved). This is still a simplistic look at hair lengths but I think it is more helpful. I would know not to get excited about ‘6 new ways to style mid length hair’, as I currently have short hair.

Maybe it is just that short hair is easier to say and type. Maybe we need to agree a better term; mid hair? midi hair? medium hair?

Okay, so this was a weird personal rant, it’s just as someone who has short hair I hate getting excited over what turns out to be irrelevant content.

End of rant.